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Monday, January 17, 2011

How to accept Change positively

Many people I come across find it difficult to accept change. I guess I'm fortunate in that change (particularly in my working life) has occurred on a frequent basis.

Why is it that we are so resistant to change? 

Rather that try to answer that question directly, I want to look at it from an alternative perspective. 

Change is natural. 

The seasons change throughout the year. We don't get the exact same weather each year. Some summers are warmer than others, some winters colder. Some years we get extreme weather. 

The one constant is that nature adapts. 

Without the seasons, we would not have variety. We would not have the constituents that make up sun and rain that allow life to exist. Perhaps that is why we have abundant life on earth and that planets around us appear to be dead. (At least we still seek to discover life on other planets but still have little evidence to prove otherwise).

Change in the world that we experience is inevitable. It is meant to be in order to support life. We are designed to accept change, so there is no real point in resisting it. 

On a less profound level I'll explain that there have been times in my working life that change for change sake has not been helpful. One place I worked made changes so often (sometimes on a hourly basis) that it was difficult to keep up. Also, there was no chance to measure and test the outcome of a given idea to see if it was effective. It created confusion and chaos. 

To resist change is to become stuck. There may well be comfort in keeping things the same, but that simply stunts growth. Change IS inevitable. I heard a story once of a new minister at a parish church who wanted to move the piano /organ from one side of the church to the other. People were very resistant to this wanting things to remain familiar. The minister achieved moving the item eventually by moving the item 1 inch at a time each week. 

I used to commute to work on the train to London a few years ago. It always amused me how people would sit in the same seat each morning. Sometimes, when somebody new joined the train, an indignant non changer would say "Excuse me, you are sitting in my seat". It begs the question "Who's seat?" The seat was not reserved specifically for anyone. If somebody wanted that, I'm sure they would have had to pay a very high price for it!

If you are resistant to change, are you going to continue to waste energy by fighting it? That energy would be far more productive by adapting.  

If you attend meetings regularly, experiment with sitting in a different place occasionally. From a different view point, you may get a different perspective of the content of the meetings. 

Having said all that, I am still a little resistant to change, especially when my wife gets itchy feet and changes the furniture round in the various rooms of our home. After she has done that, I simply can't find anything! 

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2 Comments:

  • Beautiful article. I'm going through a personal process of change that, I must admit, is making me feel weird. I know that change is a natural and good thing but still feel like is not my thing. Anyway, I think I will try my best to adapt and survive this rough time by accepting changes and most importantly, by accepting myself.
    Thanks for posting nice readings like this, I found it really helpful.

    By Anonymous Spanish_girl, at Sat Feb 12, 12:02:00 PM GMT  

  • @ Spanish_girl
    I'm so pleased you enjoyed this and it has helped you. We all seek some kind of meaning in life and sometimes we find parts of the puzzle through connections like this.
    Be blessed!

    By Blogger Marty BoneIdol, at Sat Feb 12, 12:50:00 PM GMT  

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